Saying “no” is ok if its against your opinions, values, and needs. Boundaries protect and define us. Setting boundaries leads to better relationships. By setting boundaries you are showing what you allow or are comfortable with. Tune into you feeling and being honest is a step to setting boundaries. Realize that others personal needs and feelings are not more important than you own. Don’t let anything or anyone else define you. First we must know what we want, give yourself permission to ask for it or say, “No”. Ask without an apology, we must let go of guilt. Why feel guilty for being who you are?
Know when its a unsolvable situation and continual conflict. All problems have a solution. If setting your limits don’t work it may be time to walk away. Once we let go of a situation we tell our self is a “problem” and its really just a unavoidable conflict we can better focus our energy on real problems with real solutions.
Don’t sacrifice yourself for others.