Your life is yours to figure out what you want and to follow your dreams, whatever you decide those are. When you make your passions the focus of your life, you will live to the fullest. What makes you happier, healthier, more creative, and more productive? For me, I like to read, learn, implement, and share. My creative outlet is writing. In order to take a step toward our dreams we must believe in our self. my power phrase is “you got this” Possibilities are endless when we believe. Manifesting may be a little far fetched for some and everything for another.
In a world where ignorance is bliss. So many fall into this abyss Life in front of you just dismissed. Who do you look to? Am I even talking to you? My point of view is of value If you only knew what I was going through. I quit running from myself long ago, yet some days it still feels so alone. Sobriety yet only a milestone Make way for mundane affairs, certain despair. Trust me when I say its not a hoax, its all about growth with a different approach There is some hope even without dope Those desires you feel are just layers to peel. -A. Best
Its going to get better Be my own redeemer Always been a dream, a healer, a seeker They will find I am designed. Not to be confided, because my frame of mind. Im a bumblebee to a Degree. A Butterfly, I will Fly high. Under these conditions, finding the ambition. Escaping deprivation of expression. Taking apart all of the hearts, to get a fresh start. Get the essence of the blessings, never second guessing. Using all the wisdom within this system. Nothings ever solo I suppose, up close. There are people in the shadows, sometimes unexposed. I just want you to know. That you are not alone. Copyright -A. Best
Music was always my outlet. I loved singing songs I could relate with my own pain. Maybe it was my way of embarrassing my true feelings. One day I was inspired to write my own lyrics. Come to find out I wasn’t bad at it. Haven’t ever stopped writing since. I found a way to get my thoughts out even if no one was listening. Of course, the thought of them not being understood is annoying, but not as annoying as the words replaying in my head. Exploiting them feels powerful. What I mean by finding a outlet is not finding a distraction. We have plenty of those in life. What I mean is finding something that allows us to process and express the feelings. They say, “the only way out is through.” Pick up a sport or go to the gym. Gym is another great outlet for myself. I’m not big on meditation but even just being outside alone with your own thoughts is close enough. Clearing you mind requires you to deal with yourself. Outlets boost your mood, lower stress, give a sense of accomplishments, increase mindfulness and in turn makes us happier people.
Saying “no” is ok if its against your opinions, values, and needs. Boundaries protect and define us. Setting boundaries leads to better relationships. By setting boundaries you are showing what you allow or are comfortable with. Tune into you feeling and being honest is a step to setting boundaries. Realize that others personal needs and feelings are not more important than you own. Don’t let anything or anyone else define you. First we must know what we want, give yourself permission to ask for it or say, “No”. Ask without an apology, we must let go of guilt. Why feel guilty for being who you are?
Know when its a unsolvable situation and continual conflict. All problems have a solution. If setting your limits don’t work it may be time to walk away. Once we let go of a situation we tell our self is a “problem” and its really just a unavoidable conflict we can better focus our energy on real problems with real solutions.
Healthy habits are important for our productivity. if we implement healthier habits into our life we have more mental, physical, and emotional motivation. Examples are get plenty of rest, drink more water (I need to do better at this because I live off of coffee), exercise, plan our meals, take notes, and learn something new. What are our priorities? How do we accomplish our goals? Do you make a list of the things that need to be done in your day? If you don’t, this is a good idea. Manipulate you willpower with rewards. Instead of procrastinating because of energy or time. Do what needs to be done than take a long bath or go for ice cream. Avoid perfectionism. A lot of time I find that the thought of anything being perfect is its just a thought because at the end of the day, it is what it is. If we are productive we get better over time, by the way. By taking action on what’s important, we get more of what we need and what. That will make us less stressed and happier people!
This doesn’t mean that we like whatever it may be but that we see the reality for what it really is. Acceptance will encourage change or action. Think of a situation of unwilling acceptance. It probably only caused more pain and suffering. If we can accept our own reality getting us closer to that authentic self that I’ve previously spoke of. It also pulls us out of the negative thinking pattern of failure. Acceptance is the beginning of making changes in our life that suites our needs and wants. So stop resisting and find the lesson
Turn your I can’t to I wont and you I should to I will. When thinking its not our fault change it to I am responsible. All of our problems can be opportunities want to learn to grow from being unsatisfied with our situation. Victimizing puts us in a hole. Sure you may be a victim of a event in your life, a person even. What are YOU going to do to change it? Life can be a continual struggle or an adventure. Instead of thinking or saying, “I hope” start thinking or saying “I know”. Everything terrible is a learning experience so that we know next time what needs to be different. Its our will that make us strong and our journey that make us unique. Changing the way we think internally will eventually show outwardly and that when we regain our power. What is stopping you?
Whatever experience may be your experiencing, It serves a purpose. It can be for ourselves to grow or for something greater and beyond our self. Everyone has a opportunity to grow from any type of experience, good or bad. They say in AA, “Take what applies and leave the rest.” When it comes to ourselves in pain it always applies. Accept it, and it will hurt less. Its understandably in our mind why we feel the way we feel, so by learning to accept it we can be our authentic selves, and grow from what we are truly struggling with. Personality traits, learned behaviors, values, beliefs, sense of fairness, goals, and needs are all part of how our minds work and how we react to what the universe hands us. Once we know ourselves well enough we can express the how’s and whys and live a better more fulfilling life. We can ask for what we need and want as well as have a better perspective on what drives us. We have more purpose in what we do when we have the intention to do it. Intention + action = outcome. We do have the power to create our own reality. We are all human. Messes and mistakes happen. We pick ourselves up dust our selves off and try again. My goal in this blog is to pick someone else up and dust them off because, sometimes we get lost and need a hand or friend. A reminder that you are strong and powerful. You can get through this.
“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but by all means keep moving.” – Martin Luther King Jr.